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From distinguished researcher/clinician Russell A. Barkley,
this treasured parent resource gives you the science-based information
you need about attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and its
treatment. It also presents a proven eight-step behavior management plan
specifically designed for 6- to 18-year-olds with ADHD. Offering
encouragement, guidance, and loads of practical tips, Dr. Barkley helps
you:

*Make sense of your child's symptoms.
*Get an
accurate diagnosis.
*Work with school and health care professionals
to get needed support.
*Learn parenting techniques that promote
better behavior.
*Strengthen your child's academic and social
skills.
*Use rewards and incentives effectively.
*Restore
harmony at home.

Updated throughout with current research and
resources, the third edition includes the latest facts about
medications and about what causes (and doesn't cause) ADHD.

/>See also Dr. Barkley's bestselling Taking Charge of Adult
ADHD
.

Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies
(ABCT) Self-Help Book of Merit

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Reviews for Taking Charge of ADHD, Third Edition: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents:

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March 21, 2014

disappointed, of no use for inattentive (non-hyper) ADD, very basic
I am really disappointed. This book was supposed to be the "go to" resource for all things ADHD. Unfortunately, it is really focused on hyperactivity and bad behavior. I endured a large part of the book before he notes that inattentive ADHD is not covered by the book, but for a brief blurb where he posits inattentive ADD(nonhyper) is really "sluggish cognitive tempo"-his theory really doesn't fit my child at all.
One pro is that he does provide a very thorough rebuttal to common misconceptions like "ADHD didn't exist before now, doesn't exist in other countries, is caused by diet or tv" etc.
But, it is also not an engaging read, and as another reviewer stated a lot of it is really basic parenting-"make sure to notice your kid being good," "take time for yourself," etc.
I had checked out the Book "Driven to Distraction" before buying this. It was infinitely better, in my opinion. It covered both hyper and nonhyperactive ADHD and was incredibly informative and engaging. Also it is written by adult psychologists who have ADD. I liked their perspective that people with ADD/ADHD have a lot of strengths-they are typicallu charming and more creative- and a lot to offer if they get the right help and coping mechanisms. I feel like there is a tone in the Barkley book that kids with ADHD are kind of broken.
5

January 26, 2017

Don't miss this book if you're a parent who feels helpless
I'm writing this review because when I bought this book, the first reviews showing on my Amazon page were quite negative, and that troubled me because this book has been a game changer and a lifeline for me and my seriously ADHD teenage daughter, in a way that no other single book has been. That's mostly because, unlike other books I've read, Barkley addresses directly and proposes clear, practical, simple remedies for dealing with the incessant and destructive parent/child behavioral conflicts that have often dominated our life at home -- and that other recommendations had done very little to improve. This book deals head on with that "elephant in the room", something that was so obviously "wrong" in our lives, but that I couldn't understand because I'd done all the "right" things, including medication, behavioral therapy, academic support and trying to be a loving, understanding and firm parent. Anyone who's been there will understand, and this is the one book that really helped. Also, in defense of Barkley's serious and informed writing style, this is, of course, very serious material. For something as profound as a young person's mental health and future, it's important to know the scientific bases for the author's analysis and recommendations. Yes, there are more conversationally written books out there on this subject, which may be an easier read for some, but there's nothing abstruse or hard to read about this one, and its author imparts a lifetime's clinical and academic experience. There are many observations and surprising insights throughout the text (for example, research shows that non-intrusive background music can help ADHD kids focus on an academic task whereas complete silence or overly stimulating music is less likely to help). This book has a program for behavioral intervention at home that can be modified for a teenager, and gives simple, clear guidance on the difficult issue of how much and in what way it may be necessary to involve yourself with your teenager's school, while at the same time allowing the teen the self determination that's critical to her growth at this age. It's more densely written than some, and that's as one would expect from a worldwide leader in the field of ADHD research. I've found other books helpful on the interface of parent and ADHD teen (e.g. "Ready for Takeoff" (Maitland & Quinn), and my daughter has "The ADHD workbook for teens" (Lara Honos-Webb) which has helped her to voice her frustrations and fears, and to accept and take charge. However, I haven't yet seen any book as comprehensive and as helpful as this, and I'd urge any parent with a serious situation to read it.
5

July 31, 2016

Highly recommended!!!!!!
This is an amazing book!! My son is 5 and very very hyper and at times can be very difficult. I've always suspected he had ADHD because of his non-stop extremely high energy. I can relate to pretty much everything in this book. I have used a few of the ideas in working with my son and there has already been improvement. I used to get so frustrated to the point I would cry and that's not how I want my relationship to be with my son. This book was recommended by his pediatrician and I'm so glad I bought it!
4

March 22, 2015

Barkley is great and information quite valuable
Barkley is great and information quite valuable. His recommendations and advice are valuable. Far too many have preconceived notions relative to ADHD, which severely limits the help those affected need. What was missed were all of those sensory issues ADHD/ADD people have due to the condition. I also noticed that there was no mention of an iron deficiency, which all those in my family with ADHD/ADD have showing up on blood tests without medication.
My husband and daughter both chose not to medicate until our granddaughter was diagnosed. When my daughter wanted to medicate her child I told her until her father and she sought the same treatment, I was opposed to medicating a child. Needless to say, the homeopathics helped for a time, the diet restrictions and sensory processing disorder treatment helped for a time but as they witnessed the rejection of peers, strained learning, and negative consequences in my granddaughter they experienced in their own lives, their views changed.
Today, my husband, daughter and granddaughter are in CBT, see a psychiatrist, and take medication. Their lives moved from a roller coaster ride to a life more related to a camera where they take the shot, reframe it, and move forward but that would not have happened without the medication component. .
5

August 28, 2018

Read this book if your Child is diagnosed ADHD
If your child has ADHD, you need to read this book! It is big and sort of "text bookish", but it has information I didn't know and we've been dealing with our 14 year old daughter for 8 years without this workable knowledge. Magic 1-2-3 helped when she was young, and a couple other books helped with ADHD, but this book identifies the scientific discoveries of ADHD and explains them. It is also empathetic to all those parents dealing with non-ADHD kids who "think" they have the answer to how to handle the child.
Here is what you do: Read 20 minutes in the book every day... Every day... before you know it, you have completed the book. You receive a consistent flow of information and I suggest highlighting all the key information points that will help. It is helping us help our daughter be successful in life.
5

October 23, 2016

I would say this is by far the best book out there for both clinicians and parents for ...
As a pediatrician, I would say this is by far the best book out there for both clinicians and parents for understanding and managing ADHD. It truly makes you appreciate the person with ADHD. My advice when you get angry and frustrated with your child, remember--"Hate ADHD, not the person."
2

February 22, 2016

Way too negative! Have to wade through it to get to something constructive.
As a parent of a child recently diagnosed, I found this book to have a very negative slant with the wording. This book is supposed to help you take charge which should be empowering and positive. Using phrases like defect, problem, deficit, and burden, etc. ADHD is a disability like any other. To use the analogy I have heard many times, I don't think the author would have used this language had this book been written about someone with a visual impairment. It would be viewed as insensitive and not PC. I am only giving this book a 2 star rating instead of 1 because I'm not finished and optimistic that somehow it has useful information despite the extremely negative tone. Though also considering returning it to Amazon if I get much more frustrated!
5

May 30, 2018

Invaluable resource on ADHD - #1 Must Read to learn more about this disorder
This is the single most helpful book on ADHD I have read thus far. It contains a lot of up to date information about the disorder that you can either read or skim. I am a mental health professional and learned a lot from the newer information in this book that has helped me with my clients and my own son. The most important thing for people to understand about ADHD is that it is a disability of the executive functioning of the brain (and everything that entails). The book explains exactly what that means and gives helpful examples to illustrate the points. It talks about research and explains what the findings mean in layman's terms. It validates parents' struggles and encourages them to stand up for their child who has an actual disability. It explains why kids with ADHD often act out and get into trouble, why this affects their self-esteem and why they are so easily frustrated. All those things you've been struggling with your child are likely related to his/her ADHD. It even goes into discipline, how to work with your school, with your family members, and how to take care of yourself in the process. Everyone you interacts with people with ADHD need this resource.
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May 12, 2014

This book proposes the impossible task
As a parent with ADD/ADHD and having a kid with one, I find the advice in the book to basically translate to "give your kid immense amounts of attention that's loving and positive despite how much the child wrecks the life of you and your family, and set up systems in which the child is rewarded for every little thing they do, which you must be watching like a hawk in order to catch".

This seems like a serious blunder as many books on mental illness say how common it is for the diagnosis of one family member leads to diagnosis for others. The main value I've seen in this book is the attempt to dispel the myths of The mental illness - namely being it's a made up issue and a moral shortcoming.

At this point I'm at my wit's end and I'd wished I'd spent my time on something more effective than this book. Now I'm evaluating whether or not our family's structure even makes sense anymore, associated shame be damned.

If you need ammo to defend the illness against those who reject it, the beginning of the book is a great resource. If you're looking for help holding your family together and having a happy life to look forward to, look elsewhere.
3

March 21, 2014

Useful but....
As a parent who is somewhat familiar with the concept of ADHD and who has some ADHD traits, I found this to be a dry and uninteresting read. There is a certain amount of repetition that was unnecessary; he could have handled the history in a more succinct; and it could have been written in a more engaging way? I felt, too, that his generalizations and case studies didn't fit enough of the variations you see in actual children... that it was written towards the most extreme behavioral cases, which didn't really fit my already medicated ADHD child. Some of the parenting tips in the book we had applied to our child years before medication and the more intense changes the author suggested, we felt were not even warranted for our child.

I agree, too, with another commenter who stated, "I feel like there is a tone in the Barkley book that kids with ADHD are kind of broken."
3

August 18, 2013

Good but not authoritative
I will start by saying that I am not an expert on ADHD. However, I am an academic- I work in academia and have expertise in assessing this type of work. I don't know that much about ADHD (yet) so my statements here are based on some cursory impressions.

I was troubled by the use of the work "authoritative" to describe it. The word means, in this context, that it is unlikely to be improved upon, accurate ([...] How can a book be authoritative when it spends barely less than two pages on Individualized Education Plans (IEPs) and does not even mention 504 plans?

The author ignores or denounces other theories of ADHD that do not support his own. For example, Neurofeedback is mentioned on one page of the book- an added section- wherein he states that he does not think it is efficacious. I do not know if Neurofeedback is efficacious or not, but the author fails to mention that the American Academy of Pediatrics DOES approve its use for ADHD and recognizes it as efficacious as medication ([...] and the American Psychological Association also notes positive effects with its use for children with ADHD ([...] Barkley also suggests that this modality is too expensive, and ignores the fact that many insurance companies will pay for neurofeedback treatment.

So the book may be useful, but authoritative or complete, no.
1

December 24, 2017

Should be titled: The terrible diagnosis of ADHD.
I know Russell Barkley is supposed to be the authority on ADHD, but I have tried to get through this book twice, and simply can't get past his advice that ADHD will make your life and the life of your child terrible and full of difficulty with no hope.
5

July 13, 2018

I highly recommend this book!
Perhaps one of the BEST books I have read about ADHD! As parent of child with ADHD, this book has been invaluable and has provided me with much more information than I could have ever imagined to getting out of a book. At some points, it may be a bit difficult to read, but the author makes sure to reference previous points, if related, and he also lists a number of other resources throughout the book (and towards the back of the book)! I highly recommend this book to any frustrated ADHD parent, and others who simply want to know more about it!
5

Jan 27, 2016

I wish I had read this three years ago. This has become an invaluable resource for me in getting a gameplan together to manage my son's ADHD. I recommend this for anyone with a child who has trouble in the classroom. It doesn't touch on any learning disabilities, but gives plenty of arrows to point you in the right direction.
5

August 4, 2015

I definitely recommend this for any parent of an ADHD child
I wish I read this book when my children were first diagnosed with ADHD. It is confirming a lot of what I have observed in them but didn't necessarily understand was related to their ADHD. I feel it is helping me to be more patient and less frustrated with my children's behaviors. I definitely recommend this for any parent of an ADHD child. It is a bit of a "heavy" read with a lot of research based information but nevertheless very helpful. I could see where it might be difficult for an ADHD parent to get through it - perhaps a condensed version would be helpful for those parents, especially since "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree."
3

December 20, 2016

Painful to read
This book is a tough read. I have gotten through the first 70 pages and it has been painful. The audience is supposed to be parents, but I think he has written it far too clinically. I got this book because I wanted strategies, but those are another 60 pages away...I also agree with some other reviewers who said he uses a lot of negative language when describing these kids. I may tough it out or just find another book that may be more enjoyable for me to read.
3

Jul 06, 2013

Hm. Don't know where to start on this one. Some chapters were certainly worth it. Others were very clinical and scary. Lots of statistics to make it Loud and Clear what kids and parents are up against. It was a good cautionary tale in some respects, validations about some of the things I'm already doing in other respects...and some good basic medical information. But, as a good friend reminded me recently, this isn't the book that is going to give me hope. This book will give me facts and Hm. Don't know where to start on this one. Some chapters were certainly worth it. Others were very clinical and scary. Lots of statistics to make it Loud and Clear what kids and parents are up against. It was a good cautionary tale in some respects, validations about some of the things I'm already doing in other respects...and some good basic medical information. But, as a good friend reminded me recently, this isn't the book that is going to give me hope. This book will give me facts and truths. The hope I must find from the heart of my boy and my faith. ...more
3

August 22, 2018

Should be called "Taking Charge of type 2 or 3 ADHD"
My daughter was just diagnosed with ADHD, type 1 (inattentive type, not hyperactive) so I bought this book as a resource because of the great reviews. This book has a ton of information on types 2 and 3 ADHD (which is why I gave it 3 stars) but limits the mentions of type 1 to three pages. The author basically says the book doesn't really apply to type 1 because he believes it's a completely separate disorder. Well okay then, but I wish I knew that BEFORE I bought the damn book. Also, he claims that type 1 ADHD is actually something called Sluggish Cognitive Tempo. "Don't expect many professionals to have heard of [SCT]" because it "is not an officially recognized diagnosis." So the definitive resource on ADHD completely ignores a huge subset of people diagnosed with it, and justifies that by giving them a made up diagnosis. Very disappointing.
3

May 27, 2014

Not an easy go.
I have read Dr Russell Barkley's other book on ADHD for adults many many times. Therefore I was expecting something similar. But I found this book to be not only tough to read, it also beats around the bush time and again. It probably has the useful info but It is not as easy read. Too much philosophical nonsense. I wish if it was as practical and to-the-point as the other book.
2

October 22, 2019

Parents: skip this one
The author treats ADHD like it’s a terrible disease, the diagnosis of which will ruin your child’s life. My son was diagnosed last month, and I chose this as my introduction to the condition. Bad choice. I almost started crying from the dire hopelessness of this book’s perspective. While Dr Barkley is certainly an expert, his angle on the condition is that ADHD a tragic disorder and if your kid has it, he’s unlikely to ever amount to anything. This was not helpful to me as a mom — and I don’t think it’s true. Maybe this perspective was useful many years ago (when the first edition was written), and the author needed to prove to a skeptical world that ADHD is a real thing. I appreciate that Dr Barkley fought that battle. But for parents looking to structure positive and inspiring childhoods for their ADHD kids, this shouldn’t be the go-to primer. I’ve put this book away — in a place where my kids won’t find it and infer terrible things about themselves! — and have bought some new classics which are more positive and which focus on ADHD as both a challenge *and* a strength. Check out “Delivered from Distraction,” by John Hollowell, “Faster than Normal,” by Peter Shinkman, and “The ADHD Advantage,” by Dale Archer. Best of luck to fellow parents out there trying to figure this all out.
5

August 16, 2018

Thanks! This book has great ideas and info!
My family has struggled with ADHD for along time, especially my brother and father. My child has NF1 and that made her even more likely to experience a learning disability. My mother has worked with my brother through out all of his education. Many of the tools that were available to him in elementary school in the 90's are still being used because they were effective! This book is wealth of information for any parent, whether your child is struggling with ADHD or not. I'm thankful I was recommend this fantastic resource for ourselves and our daughter!
4

May 22, 2013

I found this book to be both informative and insightful. However, in my opinion, it also reads like a textbook and was at times a bit of a chore to get through.
4

April 18, 2016

Must read book!!
I really enjoy the knowledge that this book has to offer to me as a parent. It teaches me how children were diagnosed way back from different decades to now. It's a good book especially for parents who want to better understand their child with this illness. I learn A lot from it and I never want to put it down. It is a must read book. It was recommended to me from my own children's doctor.
4

Oct 28, 2019

Disclaimer: This is probably more a rant about my son’s ADHD than a review. You’ve been warned.

Not too long ago, while reading a description of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, I was struck by its similarities to my child. Having been around for 100% of his fetal development, I know I ingested nothing worse than Ramen Noodles, but the similarities led me to the suspicion that my son’s more concerning behaviors and traits are related to some type of early brain damage. This took me down a rabbit hole Disclaimer: This is probably more a rant about my son’s ADHD than a review. You’ve been warned.

Not too long ago, while reading a description of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, I was struck by its similarities to my child. Having been around for 100% of his fetal development, I know I ingested nothing worse than Ramen Noodles, but the similarities led me to the suspicion that my son’s more concerning behaviors and traits are related to some type of early brain damage. This took me down a rabbit hole that led me back to his diagnosis of ADHD from 3-4 years ago, which then led me to this book.

I don’t know why the pediatrician who diagnosed him didn’t explain that there is so much more to ADHD than inattentiveness. I hadn’t realized how valid “Blame It on My ADD” could be. This book explained so much about my son’s behavior, so many aha moments. It was like watching the end of Sixth Sense and reframing all those scenes in light of the big reveal. Some of the bigger ahas:

* Pre-natal developmental problems are linked to ADHD. I have a pet theory about mold in the chronically flooded basement I lived in while pregnant, but this is not one of the known factors listed in the book. What I do know is that my baby was so small en utero that the doctor decided I must have been confused about my dates and pushed out the due date a full month (which made no sense because that meant I wasn’t pregnant when I took my first positive pregnancy test, but hey, I’m no doctor). Lo and behold, my son was born “early” and very small.
* Temperament in infancy and early childhood is connected to ADHD. People would tell me my colicky baby had to be in pain to cry so much, but I secretly wondered if he was just bored. He could never get enough stimulation. I became a human Disneyland ride, bouncing and pacing and swinging simultaneously to keep him happy. The study about ADHD children playing with each toy for less time really hit home. As a toddler (through NOW), he couldn’t (can’t) entertain himself for long. I remember one particular weekend rushing him from one activity to the next — the zoo, the park, several playdates, and more — and coming home exhausted only to find my 5-year-old couldn’t entertain himself for even the one unstructured hour of the day. Still waiting for that selective hyper-focus everyone talks about ADHD-ers having to kick in.
* Deficiencies in fine motor skills are linked to ADHD. Around age 4, he was concerned about who would spoon-feed him when his baby brother needed the same service. When he was starting kindergarten, I remember trying to explain to a teacher that he couldn’t put on his own jacket. She kept thinking I meant he couldn’t zip it, but he literally could not put it on. Another teacher warned me he would fail kindergarten if he couldn’t form more legible letters. (We moved, so I never found out if he progressed enough to pass that school district’s standards.)
* More than an attention problem, ADHD is an issue with self-regulation and executive function. I think the book uses the term “self-inhibition,” but it made more sense for me to think of it as “self-control.” I truly believe my son wants to be “good” but has cognitive deficiencies that make carrying out that resolve difficult. I remember his pre-school self staring wistfully at a mall Santa and saying, “Santa won’t bring me anything. I’m not good.”
* ADHD brains have difficulty processing long-term consequences. Only days before I read this, my son had tried to explain, when asked why he did X when he knew the consequence would be Y, “I’m not a future person. I’m a now person.” He wasn’t presenting it as an excuse, just an explanation. I don’t know if I’m mixing up this book with other studies I’ve read, but I guess ADHD brains don’t get much, if any, of a chemical rush of pleasure from anticipating a reward, making it more difficult to work towards that reward. This explains why all his sticker charts remained empty growing up. I assume it works the same way in reverse, where he doesn’t get the same reaction to anticipated negative consequences as everyone else does.
* ADHD is one ginormous sleep problem. I’d already learned that ADHD and sleep problems are connected, but this book further explained that those with ADHD move more physically during sleep as well as during the day, and they don’t have the same structured circadian rhythms as others. I’ve read elsewhere that when sleep problems are solved, ADHD symptoms go away entirely. But since ADHD causes the sleep problems to begin with…
* ADHD is a disability. I remember trying to explain to a therapist that our son was “high maintenance” and required a lot of energy from me. The therapist interpreted this as him having “special needs,” and I corrected her, but maybe that wasn’t the wrong way to put it. However, the author is firm that this particular disability requires MORE accountability of the disabled, not less, in order to mitigate the disability.
* ADHD is linked to Oppositional Defiance Order. My son doesn’t have an ODD diagnosis, but that would explain A LOT.

One thing the author did well was make me, the parent, feel validated. I’ve gotten so burned out on parenting books, with their condescending assurance that you were doing everything ridiculously wrong until you found this book. I was whining to my sister about this when she said, “Maybe all the normal parenting books don’t work because you aren’t parenting a normal child.” (Mind blown.) If this can be called a parenting book, it’s not a normal one, thank goodness. The author reassures us that we aren’t bad parents. One study is cited to show that the differences between parents of ADHD children and others is probably a reaction to the child, not a cause. The author walks a fine line between not blaming parents and showing it’s still within the parents’ power to make it better. (It was sobering to hear that the big distinguishing factor between whether difficult toddlers are later diagnosed with ADHD is the primary caregiver.) He even understands that parents have their own crap to deal with, with ADHD parents being more likely to have depression and anxiety and even ADHD themselves, something that “normal” parenting books never seem to grasp. When the author expresses understanding of how exhausting parenting an ADHD child is...strumming my pain with his fingers. He notes that parents of ADHD children have the same stress levels as parents of children with severe developmental disabilities. And I thought I was just a wuss. He even includes a chapter on how to take care of yourself as a parent, with the takeaway that your child doesn’t need you to be a martyr. 

A lot of the parenting suggestions in the book rang true to me, such as:
* Reward and punish immediately so they can more easily connect their behavior with its consequence. (I think of this as treating them like Pavlov’s dogs.)
* Lecture sparingly. The kid probably isn’t listening anyway. If you have to lecture, keep it short and sweet.
* Never issue a command without enforcing it. So think carefully before issuing a command.
* Focus on one behavior at a time. Decide what the biggest problem is and work on that. I don’t know why I never gave myself permission to do this, but it’s very freeing to think I don’t have to address every problem at once.
* Don’t expect perfect grades, or homework perfectly completed. I already resigned myself to Bs, but I was still insistent that homework be perfect because it was done on my watch. Like several parents in the book, I’ve let homework impair our relationship. Grades are definitely not the biggest problem we should be working on, and if I’ve learned anything from parenting it’s that I need to save my strength for the battles that actually matter.

On the other hand, the suggestions for dealing with schools seem like helicopter parenting to me. Teachers do not get paid enough to do give as much individualized attention to my child as the author thinks parents should demand. However, that’s my perspective as the parent of a kid who’s bright enough (or at least at the older end of his class enough) to eek by despite his ADHD (albeit below his potential), and maybe I’d feel differently if he wasn’t doing so okay. It’s probably useful for students who already have IEPs, and maybe I’ll revisit that chapter if we ever get to that point.

I’m also a bit skeptical about reward programs, having set up and discarded many over the years. The nature of ADHD, as the author explained, requires bigger-than-usual rewards, so even small rewards have to be relatively large. I was pleasantly surprised when I realized he could be bribed, at 5, to not fight with his little brother for 24 hours in exchange for the backpack he wanted for school. But I don’t feel I should buy him a $10 something for every day he doesn’t hit his brother, and giving him tokens (e.g., sticker charts, money) to work up to a bigger reward has almost never worked with him. Further, often when I’ve offered him a reward and he doesn’t earn it, he’s thrown a tantrum about not being given the reward anyway, so I’m stuck with even worse behavior than I started with. I’m not sure how to apply a reward system in conjunction with other science that suggests too many rewards and even praise can backfire into entitlement and a lack of motivation to perform without an arbitrary/extrinsic reward. I don’t want to raise a Naomi Campbell: “I don't get out of bed for less than $10,000 a day.”

As other reviewers have noted, there is certainly a bleak, almost hopeless tone to the book. I’d been taking comfort that kids “grow out of it,” as evidenced by their frontal lobes developing into normal size by adulthood, but the author shatters this by observing that an increase in size is not necessarily an increase in grey matter. And sure, 50% of kids “grow out of” ADHD by adulthood, but according to the author only 10% of kids DON’T have a some sort of mental disorder (depression, ADHD, anti-social, etc.) in adulthood.

But it’s what I needed — realistic explanations and expectations, not empty platitudes or promises about what a wonderful gift ADHD is if only it were understood. Maybe I’ll want to read that type of book later, but right now I want to know what I’m up against.

It’s helped to remind myself, when hearing that ADHD teens are however-many-more times likely to crash a car or get someone pregnant, that 4 times a very small percentage is still a small percentage. (Side note: I thought it was a little hypocritical of the author to scare us about how much more likely our child is to do all manner of shenanigans, then later lecture us not to catastrophize about our teen doing those shenanigans.)

I would have liked to see more optimism about neurofeedback and neuroplasticity in general, with evaluations of the effectiveness of exercises for developing white and grey matter in the prefrontal lobe (e.g, piano, “brain games,” Brain Balance), but I realize this book was written a while ago. I’d love to see an updated version. ...more
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Jul 15, 2019

I haven't read every page (yet) but this has been an invaluable resource in helping me understand the best way to parent my son.

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